You know how sometimes we get told about a must-see movie or taste-it-now pudding or one-day-only sale and immediately we feel like, ooo I’m gotta try that. So we make a mental note to do just that, right?
And then life happens and we get distracted and then we forget about that promised thing?
Right (stay with me).
And then that limited-time-only thing disappears and the opportunity is gone…
Then after the fact, we’re like “jare but I really was going to go/eat/do to that! Now I feel versin.”
Those were my exact feelings around the very first Curls and Cocktails event hosted by Cape Town Naturally back in 2016. It looked like such a vibe and I kicked myself for not being there.
Anyway that kak feeling of fomo (fear of missing out) made me vow to myself I wouldn’t miss the next one. Come hell or high water I’d be there.
Of course, just as luck would have it, the tickets were on sale while I was broke (FYI, Januworry is junk and the price of school stationery is from the devil)… and then when my payday eventually came around… the tickets were (yes, you guessed it) completely sold out.
By now my plak was completely gesak. I thought I’m not meant to go.
So God decided to intervene. (Or as Beyonce sings: If Jesus says yes, nobody can say no…)
After I had given up all hope … I got a whatsapp from fellow radio producer friend of mine, Kaylee Kruser telling me that she is going and asking me if I want to go with her…
(Seriously though, how perfect is that?)
I nearly lost my mind in excitement. I was finally going!
Two weeks later Shana Genever (writer and creator of ‘Just a Hoe with Babies’ and Into a Housewife) tells me she is going too.
Are the stars aligning? Why is everything falling into place… (so naturally)…
Saturday 25 March finally comes and I’m off to the Toad and Josephine in Newlands.
What I didn’t know was how “home”, safe and loved I would feel amongst these naturalistas.
I finally met plus-size model and businesswoman Justene Hillary Josias (someone I’d been stalking on Instagram for a very long time) and my admiration for her only grew further.
She told us her hair story (making it so relatable through memes) and towards the end of her chat she said: “If you have a goal or dream go for it… It just might open the door to your greatness,” I swear it was like she was talking directly to me that I need to fulfill this goal I have. It couldn’t come at a better time.
This was followed by a chat by 7de laan actress Kay Smith (she played Tarryn, Errol’s love interest in the soapie) who spoke of a very important aspect on our natural hair journeys.
She reminded us that, your voice is the only voice you should be listening to when it comes to how you wear or style or express your hair – so if you decide to cut all your hair on the morning of a natural hair event (like she did) then do so. So what? Its just hair! This is YOUR journey! “Have a mantra every morning that you are more than enough. If you hair is kroeser than kroes, it’s your kroes – own it!”
I know right? Preach!
But wait there’s more…
My clear highlight of the whole evening was meeting up with a distant relative, Nadine. I won’t get into the details of how we’re related, but finally meeting and seeing my cousin – who is ALSO a natural – there is no greater joy! Don’t believe me? See these pics:
All in all, Curls and Cocktails was a full night of constant encouragement and natural hair appreciation that filled my emotional tank to the brim. When we need self-care, as naturals in a society that doesn’t always see our value and beauty … an event or “meeting of minds” like this can be the perfect antidote. A bos-kop boost 🙂
Thank you to Cape Town Naturally for hosting such a wonderful event
I look forward to more and hope to see there
Keep it real